Flirting Made Easy: Beyond Flirting

Do you consider yourself a master flirter?  How about an OK flirter under the right circumstances? How about someone who has little clue of what flirting means? How long has it been since you last consciously flirted with someone? Let’s break flirting down to its simplest definition. Flirting is any shared moment between two people.And

By | January 30th, 2012|

Beyond Dating: Top 11 Ways Not To Relate

For anyone who ever has gone on a first date that has gone completely sour, feel free to add to this list. Top 11 Ways Not To Relate Discuss past significant others in great detail and tell your current date how you’re going to get even with them. Show up on the first date looking

By | January 26th, 2012|

Seeking Love with a Beginner’s Mind

In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's mind there are few.” - Shunry Suzuki Yesterday I heard a speaker describe the principle of the beginner’s mind. While it has many names like fresh eyes and true nature, it is about looking with childlike eyes. Looking with eyes filled with awe

By | January 23rd, 2012|

Inside a Commitment Container

When I got married, we were both mature enough to know that the ceremony was just the beginning of who we would become as “Us”. It was just the beginning of our roles as “husband” and “wife”. The “Us” that we agreed to be became a container out of which we viewed the world.  The

By | January 13th, 2012|

Do You Want a Dating Adventure?

One of my friends said her new year’s resolution was to have a relationship this year. Her eyes got a bit dreamy, and she told me about how her relationship would be supportive and spiritual, just like mine. When I asked her what she wanted in a relationship, she didn't have a very specific answer.

By | January 11th, 2012|

Everyone Has Their Own Perfect

I explored different relationships for 20+ years before I discovered the perfect husband for me. He wasn’t perfect, or perfect for the other 3 women he had married before me. But he was for me. I wasn’t that attracted to commitment because I didn’t want it to recreate my mother and father’s relationship. Don’t get

By | January 10th, 2012|

Conflict is Growth Trying to Happen

So much of our society has a throw-away attitude. If it doesn’t work, throw it away.  It’s cheaper to replace rather than repair the TV we bought two years ago, so throw it away.  Why darn socks when new ones are so plentiful? And why keep a relationship that isn’t “happy”? There seems to be

By | January 9th, 2012|